People Are Always Fast To Judge Mother’s Struggling With Children In Public, This Woman’s Story Will Change How You…

Very often we can be quick to judge a mother with children they struggle to control. Megan Orr Burnside shared her experience when she recently encountered a mother who seemed to be having a physical fight with her child. Megan immediately contacted the local police who arrived on the scene shortly after. Megan and her husband left the area and were contacted a few moments later by the police department in relation to the matter. Megan was left very taken back by what they told her and felt very ashamed that she did not offer the mother a helping hand instead of judging her on the situation she believed was unfolding.

Her story will make us all think again before judging mothers in public with angry kids they are struggling to control. Read Megan’s inspiring message below, I think there are many of us who may have been witness or even victim of such scenarios in the past.

“A few years ago, I was in Tennessee with my husband at a training event. We were at a gas station, when we saw a woman with a boy of about 10 years old, struggling to get him in the car. He was screaming, and she was so angry and frustrated. We watched her get him in the car; and there was a lot of physical fighting in the car. It looked like she was hitting him as well, so we called the police. They came and we left. We then got a call, and they told us that the boy was autistic and she really struggled with him; and she had even asked for the police’s help in the past to deal with him, because he was very violent. They said they have been helping her and she’s doing the best she can.

I had the most overwhelming realization of my mistake. In my eagerness to protect the child, I neglected to offer help to the mother. Instead, I ‘turned her in’ to the authorities. We sat and watched her struggle… and called her in. I have felt guilt even years later, that I didn’t get out of my car and offer her some help. If I had helped in that moment, it may not have led to more violence.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago… I was at a thrift store, and a woman with two kids was in line to pay. One toddler boy was fussing, and the other boy was asking his mother to buy things. She was so angry and explosive at both of them; the whole store was aware of them. People stood there and watched them struggle in the line. I remembered the experience I had in Tennessee, and walked over to talk to the little boy, and put my hand on his foot. He calmed down. The mother was so frazzled, and apologized. She told me she worked nights, and she couldn’t even think in the day. I know there were other things going on, but in that moment, I told her I understood what it’s like to be overwhelmed. I told her she was a good mom. I told her everything was going to be okay. She cried, guys! She CRIED, as everyone else watched her struggle with her burden. Years earlier, I would have been holding my cell phone ready, watching to see if she did anything that I should report.

I know there’s a place for the authorities to step in, but I feel like we have become a culture who watches for faults, instead of opportunities to help. We have become more separated and condemning, instead of compassionate, loving and serving. If we helped more, we would have to call the authorities less.

This has come up for me today, because someone called DCFS on my dear friend. I have spent many hours in her home, and she is the kind of mother I want to be like. I have observed the love and patience with which she helps her children do their chores, and the way she listens to them tell their stories. I seriously aspire to be like her. When authorities were called (by someone no doubt thinking they were ‘helping’), she was very sick in bed, with a respiratory infection. I don’t know what this person observed that they thought was a problem. Maybe her kids were running around without parental supervision? Maybe a parent wasn’t feeding them, so they were foraging for themselves? I am sad that the person who called her in, didn’t ask how they could HELP HER.

It’s time to stop judging each other, and start helping each other; or we will only perpetuate isolation, depression, addictions, violence—and suicide. When people are overwhelmed they need help, not condemnation. I know I have been guilty for doing this very thing, and I see clearly how I probably perpetuated the problem, instead of helping to uplift and assist others.

I am grateful for reminders (even painful reminders), that we are not that separate. We are not that different. True change comes when we are given love and help, not condemnation.”

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